I ask my self all the time if I am adding value to a conversation, relationship, or organization. I believe that it’s important to always add value to people no matter the circumstance. Obviously that is an extremely difficult task to follow but if our overall goal is to approach our interactions with that mindset, then our conversations, relationships, and how an organization as a whole may view us are vastly different. I have realized that when I add value in my interactions, others will at times follow suit. Additionally, our peers begin to believe in who we are and what we represent and may help you pursue your vision or goals. People don’t want to be in competition with you, but they rather believe in your mission and if your passion and vision are convincing enough, they will either help you or join you in achieving it.
Have you ever been in a conversation or a relationship where you always felt drained? Have you ever been in a conversation or a relationship where you felt recharged, empowered, and inspired? I am not sure about you, but I would rather be involved with those that energize me. But, we must ensure that we are truly adding value and not just throwing information or sharing with someone your unsolicited opinion on things. Always telling people how to do things and giving your unsolicited opinion often leads to taking value from the interaction. It’s important to note the approach that we have and have awareness as to what our intentions are.
When I walk into a meeting I often have to prepare my mind and consistently be aware so that I don’t subtract value from others. Life is busy and we all have a lot going on, so at times it is easy to revert to negative ways which quickly leads to subtracting value in our interactions. It’s a battle for me, but I know that when I win over this struggle, my conversations and relationships are more rich and energizing.
Success has a lot to do with communication. Imagine if I were pitching a new idea to a group of stakeholders and my approach was primarily negative and subtracted value from them. I will be willing to bet that they would not be convinced or will have trouble buying into your idea. Now imagine if the pitch inspired and empowered the group of stakeholders. They now view you as someone who added value to them and the pitch went vastly different. The atmosphere, the interactions, the body language; everything is affected by your approach and if you are adding value to others. Additionally, the stakeholders not only may buy into your idea, but now they are inclined to help you achieve your goal or vision.
Today, consider your approach and ask yourself if you are adding or subtracting value from your interactions. Let’s be aware of this and make some adjustments and the results may be immediate! Let’s get on the right path and get after it today!
